In
our lifetime, we have been taught a lot of things, such as knowledge from
schools, interpersonal skills from peers, and the sense of morality from
families. However, there is an important thing that we always leave behind or
even neglect the necessity of it. It is PARENTING! People learn parenting from
their own families and their own parents, but the truth is that most of parents
do not know how to teach children in a right way. Many of us might have heard a
saying in Chinese－“一個人有沒有教養，看他的爸媽就知道了。”
Parenting does influence people’s lives; somehow it can be related to your
future success.
Take
my experience for example, my family definitely won’t be set as a good model.
(Despite how much I love them, I have to be objective when talking about this
topic.) In my childhood memories, my family quarreled almost every day and night.
Sometimes, when somebody lost his mind, he would start to throw everything from
television to cellphone. They kept yelling loudly without caring whether there
was a kid or not. After the fight, no one would break the ice or communicate
with each other calmly. Nobody would even perceive that such things might cause
a child’s traumatic personality development. In this case, all of our family
members including me are bad-tempered and hard to understand how to communicate
with people rather than flying to the rage and quarreling.
Therefore,
it takes me a quite long time to introspect and adjust myself. Without any advices
from people out of my family, I won’t notice how greatly I have been impacted. I
am lucky because I am aware of the severity. Nevertheless, what if there are
many children growing without appropriate parenting or many adults utilizing
inappropriate parenting to their children? What if they don’t notice what is positive
parenting practices? Indeed, even I have no idea about right parenting. So, the
starting point is what I care about the most. I want to learn parenting and
hope one day when I become a parent, my own family can be a good model for my
children.
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