Last week, one of my friends asked me “why do you have so many friends around you?” I was shocked for a while and replied “do I? why did you say that?” He said “ I see you and your friends(sometimes would be different people) eat together, shop together, and walk together on the way or some photos on the Internet ”
On that day night, there was a question came into my mind. Did I really have so many friends around me as he said? Honestly, I have met lots of friends since I was in elementary school. However, how many friends would appear when I was depressed or in need? Whenever I thought about this question, I could count with my fingers immediately. Take my senior high for example. After graduation, my closest friends were busy in school affairs (clubs or schoolwork) and even accompanied their boyfriends. Thus, it would be a little bit hard for us to have a meal together like we used to be. At first, I was not accustomed to this situation and wondered why our friendship could be like this. After discussing and pondering, we knew that we still cared about each other even though we couldn’t meet every day.
As time goes by, I realize that there are different kinds of friends around me. Some people who I can talk to, some people who I can travel with, and some people who can only be acquaintances, etc. As I grew up, I think my true friends become less and less while acquaintances become more and more. I started to wonder what kind of reason causes this problem. Distance? Or mind? In my opinion, I think that as we grow up, we have to worry about our futures and we have own thoughts or plans. Compared to the present, we didn’t need to think about future and just focus on our school works in our childhood. We have lots of time to understand our friends deeper. I am not saying that we can’t make true friends when we grow up. No, we can definitely make true friends as long as we open our minds showing the true feelings in front of each other. It couldn’t be better having a true friend around us; share any kinds of feeling, accompany each other, and become the better person.
Anyone can show up when you're happy. But the ones who stay by your side when your heart falls apart, they are your true friends. -- Brigitte Nicole.
You're right! Then having many friends or not is never the key issue to me. I have tried not to let my happiness be determined by others, though having some good friends can be very nice and helpful if they are "the ones who stay by your side when your heart falls apart."
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