Log #1

Feel the Fear …and Do It Anyway

Author: Susan Jeffers

Our daily lives are interspersed by various new challenges. Challenge may become a term in a good or bad way for different people. Most of us see challenge as fear. Fear seems to be epidemic in our society. It emerges as a variety of forms. For example, some people are afraid of public speaking, making decisions, being along, or even failing. In this book it regards about how we can conquer our fear positively

At the beginning, I was fascinated by the title of the book. When flipping over the book, I realized it will help me in an extreme length. To start with, the book gives readers a tool to inspect and test what your level of fear is. With the standard, somehow I knew one of my weakness was lack of courage to do anything, like making decisions, and trusting loved ones. Therefore, my mind was coincide mentally with the circumstances mentioned by the book, which made me more interest in the book

When it comes to making decisions, it occurs me that there are merely two outcomes-win or lose. Then, my chatterbox will keep operating. “Does it work? What if my decision is wrong? Would people belittle me?” In this situation, the book recommends that I should try to turn my original thoughts into following sentences. “It’s opportunity. If I don’t move to next step, I will be stuck in the whole lifetime. No matter what consequence happens, I know I can handled it.” It is the inspiring words that make me feel more powerful to verse my own enemy－me, a coward one.
Hardly trusting loved ones is my second fear. As an adult I always ask same questions I did as a child. Will they leave me and not come back? Will they stop loving me? Will my boyfriend count me in his future? Obviously, it keeps me in a state of constant fear that everything I have will disappear and nothing will be left. However, it is time for me to get rid of the fear of lack. Only when I do take some actions will I can guard my happiness and love ones’. Give away thanks, praises, time, money, and LOVE. As a Chinese saying goes, 我們總是把最寬容的樣子留給別人，卻把最惡毒最傷人的話留給了自己最親的人. I feel guilty while reflecting this sentence over and over again. If I love them genuinely, I shouldn’t put them far away. Instead, making them happy and then staying with me is my ultimate job.

As far as I have learned from this book, I know my worries used to permeate my negative box. Now I agree with this book－more than 90% of what I worried about never happens. That means only less than 10% of things can panic me. Furthermore, being a Pollyanna is nothing wrong. The only way can lead me to a happier and healthier live is always being a positive thinker. Last, fear would not fill my inner void anymore.